Erotica, Porn & Stereotypes

I got into an interesting “debate” earlier today about the evils of Porn. I say debate with quotes because it went the way many internet discussions go, with the other side refusing to listen to anything that diverged from their own particular view that everything “adult” was evil and degrading to women.

I do NOT want to get into the pattern or appearance of defending what’s wrong with the adult entertainment industry. My sole objection in the earlier debate elsewhere was that EVERY woman was a sex slave and that every adult video out there is degrading to women. Jenna Jameson made a fortune in the porn industry. 1993’s “Cabin Fever” was made by women for women.

I guess my questions / conversation starters are:

  1. How do we make these more the rule than the exception?
  2. How do we separate erotica from hardcore hentai and porn?
  3. How do we help men, especially younger men, see that porn is a FANTASY and not the real world?
  4. Is it even possible to convince some people that sex isn’t evil?

A couple of things before we dive into discussion:

First, once again, I’m not defending sex trafficking, use of under age performers, and such. These things should be stamped out, period.

Second, I’m not talking in point number one about making all porn into romance novels (which is kind of what Cabin Fever was). I’m talking about making it passionate and appealing to both sexes.

Lastly, I’m working from the assumption that censorship and outlawing any sort of adult video is only going to drive the industry underground and make it harder to monitor. Much the same way prohibition did with booze and the recent COVID related censorship did with alternative views and questioning the government.

I actually do have some ideas for all four questions above. I want to see what readers have to say first however. 😉


I am back among the “living” here. It’s been a miserable several months getting ready to move cross country and then settling into a new place.

Work shall resume on writing. 🙂

I’ve been pondering both how to keep the blog going if I get into creative slumps, as well as the darker aspects of the porn / adult entertainment industry. That has been something that’s bothered me, particularly with my Witchfire series. There’s a fine line between erotic and exploitative.

My solution is that I’m going to do a series of posts / articles talking about sex, erotica and porn. I’m hoping I can throw out some tips, dispel some misconceptions and do my small part to try to improve relations between the sexes. Hopefully we have some fun along the way as well.