About Done With Twitter

I think my time experimenting with Twitter as a networking and marketing platform to build my brand as an author is coming to an end.  I like the superficial support of the Writers Community there, BUT superficial is the key word.  Yeah, I’m going to be burning some bridges here, but the people I’ll alienate are already shutting me out anyway.  So what the hell.  Where are the problems?

First, there’s Twitter’s policy on adult content to begin with.  It’s virtually non-existent and very helter-skelter.  With the laws about adult material getting crazier and crazier, I don’t feel safe posting anything adult there.  Hell, it bothers me greatly that WordPress doesn’t have an adult filter thing that will at least put up a “are you over 18?” button before entering a blog.  That’s a side rant however.  Point is, I can see an eventual backlash against it like happened with Tumblr.  Tumblr isn’t evil, it just didn’t want to deal with all the crap that sites like Craigslist, Backpage and several others have.  In an age of lawyers & lawsuits, it’s easier to just go zero tolerance.

The irony to all of this is that my goal isn’t even to be an erotica author.  I want and plan to branch out into other genres.  I’m good with Sci-Fi, fantasy, paranormal, romance…  I enjoy erotica but RIGHT NOW, it’s a way to prime the pump financially to do full blown novels.  I love erotica, and I plan to keep doing it.  I just want to be known for more; as a multifaceted writer.

That leads us to the second issue.  Try as I might to deny it, there IS a definite bias against erotica writers in the Writing Community.  Romance writers as well, it seems.  If you’re not writing mainstream fiction or non-fiction, you’re not a real writer.  Even children’s books get more respect, and John freaking Cena wrote one of those.  Granted it’s not an all out boycott or anything, but it’s there.  “Real” writers get 1000+ followers overnight.  Nearly 3 months later, I’m struggling to stay above 500, and that’s with spending 12 hours a day trying to make friends and be supportive of others.

There’s an even greater and more obvious bias against unpublished writers.  You’re not a real author unless you have a book for sale.  The irony is, ten years ago, half the people saying or thinking this crap were getting told they weren’t real authors if they were indie or self publishing.  Now this next remark is NOT directed at anybody I know on Twitter.  Everyone that writes erotica in my circle seems to be very talented.  That said, the part that pisses me off is that I am SOLIDLY better than at least half the erotica writers on Amazon.  Half of the stuff I’ve paid money for there was so shitty they should be paying ME to read  it.  “The Wife’s BFF” is only on a blog though, so I’m not a real author.

Then there’s politics, and to a lesser degree social issues.  Everything is presented to the extreme.  You can’t be in favor of women’s rights unless you think all men need to be marched off to the gas chamber.  Anybody that wants to argue that should just look at the majority of tweets in response to Gillette’s virtue signaling “TheBestMenCanBe” campaign.  You don’t LOVE everything Democratic and declare Trump the anti-christ, you’re the enemy of everything decent, etc…  Anybody that owns a gun is out to go on a mass shooting.  Cops have a genocidal hatred of mnorities.  There’s NO rational discussion.

I tend to highlight liberal examples because they’re more common on Twitter.  All but the most rabid and insane right wingers have been shouted into silence on Twitter.  For the record, I used to describe myself as a social liberal and a fiscal conservative; kind of a classic libertarian.  As I see more and more of the extremes on all sides though, I’ve become a moderate across the board:

Yes, I want women’s rights.  I’m just sick and damned tired of seeing all men labeled as shit as part of the process.  Hate only fuels the backlash complained about and SLOWS THE PROCESS!!!

Yes, I want LGBTQ rights, but without the same toxic crap they complain about being directed back at straight people.

YES, I want minority rights, but again without the toxic crap.  Remember what I just said about backlash; it’s created by fighting hate with hate.

Yes, I want immigration reform and people to have a shot at the American dream.  The VAST majority of Latinos are moral, honest, hard working people.  I want border security too and for our cops and citizen to NOT be gunned down by the bad that come in with the good.

Ultimately, I don’t blame the extremists for all of the above either.  I blame the moderates  who supposedly agree with me, but can’t be bothered to take a stand and say “We don’t want to hear it until you’re prepared to act like a rational adult.  Until then, piss off.”  Too many moderates are enablers.  They’re afraid of taking a stand and/or losing “friends” who they’d barely tolerate in real life. So instead they give people drunk of self righteous hatred the drink of passive agreement.

Amazing how many people have re-tweeted my “Be the Light” post, but I have yet to see anybody take a real stand against the BS at Twitter.

Instead, I’m the villain for having the courage of my convictions.  I spend hours trying to build a brand and a network, liking and commenting on countless things, trying to joke and cheer people up, etc…  People barely acknowledge my existence anymore.

There’s no “Brand building” as marketers like to call it.  I can’t comment on half of what’s said on twitter for fear of being crucified.  I’m vilified for saying that so long as you don’t want to hear a reply, I don’t want to hear the hate.  I’m not taken seriously as a writer…

What the hell is the point?  I have 546 followers now.  10% of them never even read my profile to see the “politics = blocked” in it, and they have #resistance or similar crap in their profile.  Another 25% or so are just marketing bots / accounts that I have no interest in and they have NO interest in me beyond selling.  Out of the 2/3 remaining, I can count on my fingers the number of people who regularly respond to my tweets and actually give a damned about me as a person.


7 thoughts on “About Done With Twitter

  1. I’m sorry you’ve had a bad experience on Twitter. I agree with most of what you say here. I know I don’t speak out as much as I should, and the reason for this is because I used to (on FB) and got attacked badly for even my mildest peace-keeping posts. It was exhausting fighting with people who won’t listen to reason, and because my real name is attached to everything I post, I also worry about things like doxing. Maybe that’s paranoid, but I’m a super anxious person. I’m a bit quieter about things these days, but I still fight it face-to-face in my daily life. The anonymity of the internet makes people crueler.

    If you do leave Twitter, I’ll miss seeing you there. You’re one of the few who do interact with me and I enjoy talking with you. But I’m glad we can still connect here.

    And don’t let anybody tell you you’re not a real writer. Honestly I even hate that attitude coming from some self-published people. Some of us don’t have the resources or self-marketing ability for self-publishing! (This isn’t shade at those who self-publish, only to those who think they’re a real writer compared to somebody who is yet unpublished.)

    If you write, you’re a writer. No matter the genre.

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    • I get it Jen. Woman with your real name out there is a little different from the guys who COULD take a stand. I’ve been burned enough that I do use Silk Cords as a screen / pen name. There were people who were in a position to stand up to it and wouldn’t though. We’ve still got here to keep in touch anyway, so the hell with twitter, LOL.

      What makes the hate from the self publishing crowd really over the top is that all you need to self publish is a word file saved as a PDF and an Amazon account. In that regard, a trained monkey can self-publish. I’ve seen great stuff self published, and I’ve seen crap that reads like it was written by a second grader. Hence my crack about being better than half the erotica writers on Amazon. When it’s no more difficult than publishing here, they’re in no position to pass judgment.


  2. I am so thankful NOT to be the only person who is kind of cooked on twitter. I started, I had good intentions (although I’m not at a point where I want to brand myself) and it just… lost me. People screaming stupidly at each other instead of sitting on the bus and saying “Hey, I get that you want equal work for equal pay or paternity time off or you’re concerned about immigration. I am too – let’s communicate and find a good middle ground.”

    As for being an author of Erotica – well, damn! That’s some work right there – not just because writing is hard, no matter how/if you publish; it’s also wicked hard to create a story that lends itself to an extended scene or scenes like that. Next time some fool gives you crap for not being a writer, just remember that they have a very limited amount of sexual experiences, and couldn’t dream up what you know. It won’t make them go away, but it should help you recognize your own value.

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    • Thanks Liz. Judging from the way my visits and likes are blowing up today, it’s apparent we’re not the only ones fed up with the nonsense. 🙂

      Hope you don’t mind but I also used my edit power to add a space between paragraphs just to make your reply a little easier to read. That’s about all I’ll ever use that option for though. If somebody has something to say, and it’s not pure hate, they deserve to be heard in their own words.

      That side tangent dealt with, I’ll keep things more constructive here from now on. Thanks for getting it though. 🙂


  3. I’m sorry to hear you are leaving Twitter but I can understand it. We just connected on there & any lack of contact from my part is due to that. Alsi, I am off Twitter for a bit dealing with a personal matter. I do hear that there is a certain prejudice against erotica & romance writers. I don’t have any issues with any genre myself. The politics I agree 100% with you. I don’t agree with anyone politically so I’m accustomed to it. I also agree about non-published authors. I’m not published. Nor am I working on a book. I certainly feel quite often that I don’t belong in the Writers Community. I ‘m a blogger but I don’t really fit with bloggers either. I’m writibg a story via blog. Most bloggers are lifestyle or something. Anyway I can promise to read your blog & if you go back to twitter, I can try to help you gain followers. In either case, anything I can do to support you, I will do. Good luck in any case.

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    • I get it about things going on in real life, Joe. Speaking in generalities is concise, but it often ends up making the wrong people feel guilty. The ones I’m pissed at are the people with mutual follows who have all muted me for wanting a drama free twitter. MY first contact with you was actually here at WP anyway, (although I imagine you found my blog via links there), so to me, you fall more into the category of friends from here.

      We both felt the anti-blogger bias, enough said there. Do NOT sell your blog short though. Preserving history is important. Just because its on a personal level doesn’t make it any less so. Personal level stuff is often more relatable; it gives the reader an idea how history impacted the normal person. Reading the Diary of Anne Frank is much more impactful than a history textbook.

      Twitter though; I’m done. Tired of reading the I’ve only been here 3 days and I have 1500 followers posts, and only getting 4 when I lobby to get to 500. Too much hate there. I’ll network here and elsewhere. 🙂


      • Understandable. I’m just sorry for twitter to lose you. Thanks for the kind words about my story. I do feel some isolation on twitter. Doing non-fiction is like being from Mars there. People have been kind but my work is so differerent than most on twitter that I feel out of place. I try to connect with non-fiction writers but very few must use twitter. I guess. No matter what. I hope we stay connected here. Thanks & take care.

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